Defy the Norm: Choose Authenticity Over Acceptance

In a world where we are constantly urged to change to fit in, the saying 'Never change who you are, they will adjust' stands out as a bold and strong declaration of self-worth.

It shows that one of the bravest things one can do is unapologetically choose him or herself despite the tremendous pressure to conform. It is a key reminder that authenticity is not just a stylish jargon but a personal revolution.

From early on, many of us were taught directly or indirectly to behave in a certain way to be acceptable in society, school, family, friends, or at work. We're encouraged to suppress our emotions, change our appearances, or, at most, quiet our opinions to fit in, blend in with people, and be considered normal. The pressure to adapt and change has become relentless. But at what cost?

The moment we change for acceptance, we slowly lose connection and touch with who we truly are. The masks we wear may grant us societal approval and acceptance but may be a long-term problem since they trap us in mistaken roles that don't really reflect our genuine selves.

This disconnection may result in anxiety, fear, resentment and also identity crises. Therefore, people should understand that authenticity is not just about being real but also preserving and maintaining our emotional and mental well-being.

Genuine people can't force you to be something you're not. Having the right people by your side will always make them accept who you are by respecting your boundaries, admiring your strengths and accepting your flaws.

They will always celebrate your personality and individuality rather than try to mould you and alter you into something that you're not. And what about the ones who don't accept your authenticity? The true answer is they shouldn't be your problem and were never meant to be in your life.

It's not your responsibility to diminish yourself and make yourself lesser, quieter or more acceptable for the comfort of others. If someone is uncomfortable with who you are and your truth, that's their discomfort to deal with and manage, but not yours to fix.

'Never change who you are; they will adjust' doesn't entail stubbornness or unwillingness to grow. Growth and self-improvement are essential things in human life, but there shouldn't be any external pressure forcing someone to grow; it should be a personal decision and desire. It's clear that evolving is driven by self-love, but confirmation occurs due to fear of rejection.

Embracing who you are and living authentically might not always be easy, but when you manage to do this, you set a powerful example to others. Sometimes, it may cost your relationships, temporary comfort or even opportunities.