- He urged women to avoid rushing men to change, especially when they have only recently begun dating.
Dr. Ofweneke recently addressed a topic of great relevance to women during a Chemba show on Radio 47.
He shared insights regarding women's expectations when it comes to men and emphasized the need for patience and understanding.
According to Dr Ofweneke, men change when they find women worth it. He emphasized that various factors influence personal transformation, including upbringing, cultural background, values, and individual experiences.
“People are different; people have been raised from different cultures, family backgrounds, values and homes,” he said.
Dr. Ofweneke highlighted the importance of recognizing that people are shaped by their unique backgrounds and experiences.
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He urged women to avoid rushing men to change, especially when they have only recently begun dating.
He emphasized that expecting immediate changes disregards individual growth and transformation complexities. People cannot be expected to abandon their ingrained behaviours and belief systems overnight.
The comedian also addressed the notion of self-worth in relationships. Dr. Ofweneke questioned the extent to which some women consider themselves special enough to provoke significant change in their partners.
He urged them to reflect on their assumptions and entitlement, reminding them that change is a personal decision that men make based on their evaluation of a woman's worth. Simply put, if a man does not see the value or reason to change, he is unlikely to do so.
“How selfish can you be? A man will change when you are worth it. I will tell you that. A man will not see any use or reason to change if you are not worth it. I often tell ladies, who do you think you are for a man to change because of you? How special do you think you are?" he added.
Dr. Ofweneke emphasized that the decision to change lies within the individual and is not solely influenced by the desires of a partner.
Men, like anyone else, evolve at their own pace and timing. They must navigate their internal systems and adapt to new ways of thinking and behaving. Attempting to force change or impose expectations can lead to frustration and a lack of genuine transformation.
“The decision to enable a man to change is not a ladies’, but rather a man's will. Men change at their own time and pace. He is trying to refix a system he is used to, “ he concluded.
